Over the last few days I’ve been spending a lot of time outdoors, we’re in Virgo season afterall, a call back to nature, and all her wisdom. For me, that learning has come through all the autumnal flowers. I love their muted tones; the mustards and plums.

And as I walked by a flower last week I thought about how unafraid they are.

Flowers don’t ask permission to grow, or question their place in the world, and they don’t see another flower and close up their petals, thinking they aren’t as beautiful.

If they did, earth would lose so much of her soul.

And so many insects and animals would lose their homes.

I’ve been back to my notebook. I feel inspired to write more. I’ve filled three journals. Words I used to share with the world. An open book; sharing my everything and helping others through the same, so they would know they weren’t alone.

In a way I was creating a home.

A place of refuge from the real world for myself and those who followed my work.

I struggled with boundaries, though.

And the home I was creating was dysfunctional.

Opening my doors to whoever wanted to walk through, even if it meant I was taken advantage of, or left hurt. Or helped at the expense of my own needs and nourishment. So I pulled back and learned to value my output. Curating new rules for what I shared, when, and with who.

New passcodes for new doors.
Doors that didn’t just open to others, but kept me safe too.

Our lives are the result of the stories we believe to be true, and for many of us, we are buying into stories that do not support us at all. Stories like "business is hard" or "living your calling is impossible" or love has to be difficult on you.

A story you were told and bought into.

But did you ever think about where those stories come from? And why you are buying into them?

In business there is a concept known as *sell or be sold* and it relates to the idea that you are either selling your product or being sold the reasons why someone can't buy from you. And though helpful in marketing an offer, maybe even more so in convincing yourself of your own potential.

What stories are you buying into? And how could you sell yourself on what you'd much rather?